At the Crossroads of Heart vs. Mind

It was the summer of 1981 and I was a college student on a tight budget standing in a German train station.  I stood at the crossroads of heart versus mind over a $35 train fare.

The words from President John F. Kennedy’s 1963 speech denouncing communism echoed in my heart:

Freedom is indivisible, and when one man is enslaved, all are not free.

All free men, wherever they may live, are citizens of Berlin . . Ich bin ein Berliner. . .

That day, as on many days, my mind railroaded my heart.  I should have followed my heart.

Although I saved the $35, I lost the immeasurable wealth of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see the Berlin Wall.

How many times has your mind led the way, led you down the logical, reasonable, safe path?  How many times has your self-talk told you that you “can’t,” you “shouldn’t” when your heart told you “go for it!”  Do you have regrets?

Most research on regret shows that people will decide not to act when they think that they are likely to regret that act in the future.  This, of course, can be a good thing!  If the negative consequences are likely to outweigh the positives, then the reasonable mind can block the path of the passionate, but ill-advised heart.  However, other research shows that older, retirement-age people “almost exclusively regretted inactions.”

Looking back at my own life, I regret not what I have done, but what I haven’t done.  It’s too late for me to do some things (like see the Berlin Wall), but every new day is a new opportunity to choose a new path.

The small, self-talk we have with ourselves can have the biggest results in our lives.

When you are at the crossroads of heart and mind, of action and inaction, try to look down the roads and see what you might regret not doing.  Most of the time, just follow your heart.

Advertisements

About Diane Windingland
I speak for organizations that want their people to have better, more profitable conversations.

2 Responses to At the Crossroads of Heart vs. Mind

  1. Diane, I can relate to the head-heart dilemma. It sometimes becomes too easy to categorize our options as emotions and logic — and the emotional option seems so…emotional!
    I’m grateful for a heart that feels and a mind that keeps me in check.
    Thank you for the good reminder.

  2. Bonnie McClain says:

    Our years of life can assist us in determining which voice to listen to. I have to agree with regrets of inaction vs action. So many times I have thought back to the times I wished I had stayed to visit with someone but thought i didnt have time or tasted something different for fear I wouldn’t like it or simply smiled in response to something that I let annoy me instead of seeing the amusement or joy in the situation. I tend to listen to my heart more now that i’m on the other side of “the hill”. Coasting down the hill goes much faster than climbing up it.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: