Tracks in the Snow: How to Connect with People Who Avoid You
January 12, 2011 1 Comment
I trudged out in the new snow to get the morning paper, bleary-eyed from staying up too late. On the way back to the house, I noticed the tracks. Deer tracks. Hundreds of tiny hoof prints. I paused, marveling at how close to the house they were. I had never seen deer so close to my home. But, the tracks were evidence; evidence that they do indeed come near, just not when I’m around.
What? Don’t they like me? Don’t they know I won’t hurt them? Don’t they know I think they are beautiful?
OK. I won’t take it personally. Maybe their instincts make them wary. Maybe they’ve encountered hunters. Maybe they are indoctrinated at deer school with showings of “Bambi.”
Are there people in your life like those deer? People you desperately want to see, to connect with, but all you get is “tracks in the snow?” The teenager who leaves a trail of dirty dishes, but sits behind a closed door; the employee who picks up a paycheck, but rarely picks up the phone when you call; or the prospect who fills out the inquiry form on your website, but never returns emails?
How do you connect with them?